Bring Inner Peace Into Life and Beat the Inner Critic
It happens to all of us. We are about to take on a big project or adventure off to do something new and there is that little voice in the back of your mind telling you that you can't do it. It's hard to ignore this insistent critic, especially because it's your own voice talking to you over and over again. Who is this little persistent voice? It can only be your villainous inner critic.
Your inner critic is constantly criticising you in order to constrain you and keep yourself in check. It is always there to keep you on guard. It hopes to keep you from acting risky and pushing yourself out of your "comfort zone." So why does your inner critic want you to fail? It doesn't want you to fail but it is your inner fear coming out. In a way it is a survival mechanism trying to protect you from pain, disappointment, rejection and fear.
Studies show that women are constantly doubting themselves, unlike men, who consistently rate themselves higher than women do. Although our sense of direction, IQ and success are equal to men's, women are constantly underplaying themselves for no reason.
Life is so much more enjoyable living with inner peace rather than with an nasty inner critic.
So how do you take this inner critic and make it beneficial instead of detrimental? Start by boosting your confidence level and taking on your inner critic. These 5 confidence boosters can help you shine instead of holding you back again and again.
1. Fake It If You Have To
Confidence is all about perception and how people perceive you. If you act confident people will think you are and then slowly you will start to convince yourself of how confident you really are. When you give off confidence people are naturally attracted to you. People are more likely to buy from you, follow you, and listen to what you are saying if they are convinced that you are confident and know exactly what you are talking about.
It doesn't matter if you don't think you are confident, you just have to fake it enough to convince everyone else that you are. The more you project this booming sense of confidence the more you will begin to believe in yourself. When you start to see yourself as being self assured and successful you will be.
2. Don't Be Afraid To Make The First Move
Be Proactive! Don't be afraid to get out there and start up a conversation. Bring up an easy topic to talk about it and get a great conversation going. Remember it doesn't have to be all about you. If people aren't coming up and talking to you, reality is maybe they don't have enough confidence to get the nerve up to meet you. If you can't think of something to say just simply start with a smile. The more experience you have the more comfortable you will begin to feel, and the less your inner critic will step in and try to stop you.
3. Speak up!
Stop sitting in the back during office meetings and don't be afraid to speak your mind. If you have an idea share it. Who knows when expressing your thoughts will spark someone else's. Speaking up and saying what you think is a great way to get noticed and start a discussion. Try to plant your ideas in the conversation and try to get people to ask you questions.
Also don't be afraid to ask questions. The more knowledge you have about a product or subject the more confidence you can gain. If you don't understand something and want to know more, just ask. Others will appreciate your eagerness and it shows that you are actually thinking instead of just going through the motions, besides, people generally like to share and talk about things they know about.
4. Dress To Impress
When you feel confident about the way you look you give off more confidence. So take some time for yourself to get your hair done, go shopping, or get a make over and make yourself feel great about the way you look.
Feeling confident in yourself will help you to project this confidence to everyone around you.
5. Ignore That Feisty Inner Critic
Don't let your inner critic keep telling yourself that you aren't good enough! Instead of focusing on telling yourself that you can't, start believing in yourself. Start to realise that you are thinking negatively and kick those cynical thoughts to the curb. Thinking confidently is the first step to being confident.
Ignore all of your self doubt and personal criticisms and believe that you can. Show your inner critic just who is actually in charge.
Winning the Battle
Battling your inner critic starts with believing in yourself. Boost your confidence and change your mind set. Stop putting yourself down and take each mistake you make as a learning experience that will only help you in the long run. Beating yourself up over every goof up isn't going to help anyone. So bust your insecurities and boost your confidence by taking one step at a time!