As a father of three wonderful teenage boys I have been recently observing their outlook on life and wondering if the ensuing years will be kind to them. Or, whether they will find their place in the grand scheme of things without life pummelling them into the shape of the lowest common denominator: greedy, selfish and wasteful.
Are my goals aligned to my values?
If one of your Values is ‘Family’ or ‘Love’ but you are spending 60+ hours per week in the office, i.e. you are not investing enough time and effort towards a Goal targeted at developing your relationships you will suffer from a lack of alignment.
Are my Goals aligned to my Vision?
An aligned set of goals means that when you achieve a goal you will have taken a step towards fulfilling your ideal future (vision). In other words, “Does this goal (action) create the future that I want, or destroy it?” … sometimes the things that we have to do are mundane (read - doing the laundry or the dishes) but nothing is neutral, everything counts.
Are my Goals in harmony or do they compete against each other?
If you have a goal to reduce your personal debt and another to lease a new Porsche, chances are you have goals in conflict. Work out what is your highest priority.
Is my emotional well-being detached from achieving this goal?
This is all about achieving at a high level and being relaxed and happy at the same time. Anyone can be happy when things are going to plan. It takes skill to be ‘Happy’, and to take appropriate action, when things are not going the way as planned.
Are you flexible with the time frame?
If you are negatively affecting your health and neglecting your relationships to reach your target, it’s not worth it. Once you think that you have allowed enough time then proceed with your goal but when necessary extend the time frame if you need to so that you can maintain balance between your health, relationships and money.
Finding out more about Stephen Chong
Stephen Chong is a professional development coach and author of the new book The Music of the Soul: A pathway to a rich and fulfilling life, now available at good book stores or online at www.stephenchong.com.au
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